Unfollowing Can Be a Form of Self-Care

We so badly want to believe that we’re invincible. That compassion flows from our veins at all times, that we can celebrate the journeys of others at any given moment, and that we won’t be affected by what we see on social media.

But the reality? We have limits and capacities - and that’s ok!

It’s important to remember that typical motherhood accounts never post with the intention to stir up pain for other moms. Every single motherhood journey, with or without a NICU stay, is so unique and should be honored. But as consumers online, we have the opportunity to control and decide what we see every day as we scroll. And for a NICU mom in the midst of a NICU stay or deep in her healing process? Unfollowing can be a beautiful way to care for their heart and mind.

So what does unfollowing look like for a NICU mama?

If you’re a preemie mama, it might look like unfollowing accounts like @whattoexpect and unsubscribing from their newsletters. It might look like unfollowing accounts that share a lot of photos of pregnancy or birth. And sometimes, it may mean muting notifications from friends or family who are expecting their baby near your due date. We believe it’s possible to celebrate their pregnancy journey, while also intentionally guarding your heart.

If you’re a full-term NICU mama, it might look like unfollowing accounts that share primarily about the typical newborn experience. If your birth was traumatic, it might also look like unfollowing birth photography accounts. And like we mentioned in the paragraph before, it might also mean muting accounts of other new moms who are experiencing those first newborn moments at home.

Unfollowing does not mean blocking, and it does not mean permanency. The beauty of social media is that we can follow and unfollow as our hearts guide us too.

And as you heal, you may find yourself ready to follow certain accounts again! They will be there when you’re ready.

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